Don’t break the kids

Raise your hand if you have ever broken something and tried to fix it.  Super glue works really well, but you can always tell if something has been broken and put back together!  What about people? Can you tell if someone has been broken and then put back together? What about a horse?  Why is training a horse to have a rider called “breaking a horse?”

What’s the meaning behind Proverbs 13:24? “Spare the rod, spoil the child”. I like how The Message Bible interprets that verse: “A refusal to correct is a refusal to love; love your children by disciplining them.” So many people wrongly say that the verse means that if you don’t beat your children they will turn out to be rotten kids.  The purpose of discipline is to change behavior, if you are beating your children everyday and you are not seeing a change, then your discipline is not working.

Likewise if you are only talking and giving time outs and behavior hasn’t changed, it might be time to pull out “Mr. Belt”.  God made each of us with a seed of greatness, but sometimes when we are young that seed could look more like a weed. So we don’t want to “break” our children like you break a horse because God made them the way that they are for a reason.  Our job should be more training like you would train a plant to grow in a certain direction. If you tried to bend that small sapling too far the first week you put it in the ground you will break it, but come back week after week bending it a little at a time, you will end up with a tree headed in the right direction.

The fire of the young fisherman Peter that cut a guy’s ear off turned out to be exactly what the apostle Peter need to help start the Church of Jesus Christ!

HAMSIGHT: Don’t break the kids, it will save them time and money as adults trying to get unbroken.